Friday, September 10, 2010

Read a book, read a book, read a book, book, book!

I love to read and I have ever since I was a little kid. I remember my Mom teaching me to read before I had even started school. I remember going to Kindergarten and that reading books was one of my favorite parts, and then coming home afterward and reading more with my mom. My love of reading has remained and continued to grow through the years, and I am very convinced that it will stay with me for the rest of my life. I have noticed that my passion for reading has come in waves over the years. I have always liked reading, but there are certain times in my life that it has been more prominent than others. And my reasons for reading has changed some through time as well.

In Elementary School I read because I loved the stories and loved to be a part of them. I had a huge imagination as a kid and would play make-believe stories all the time. Reading probably made that grow even more. I would make up my own stories in the games I was playing by myself, with characters and their relationships and a storyline that I acted out. And when I was old enough, I would even write out the stories I came up with. The library was one of my favorite places to go as a kid and I always participated in their summer reading programs. Many happy hours of my childhood were spent reading.

Cute, right? The only problem is, I recognize this book and I am pretty sure it is the How Babies are Made book. So maybe not the best example... haha

The beginning of seventh grade is when I really discovered Harry Potter and I was completely hooked. I will talk more about Harry Potter later, but discovering this series made me hungry for more books and I continued reading all through middle school. I remember that I read all the Tennis Shoes Among the Nephites books during this time too.

At the very beginning of high school I don't think I was reading very much, but then one day I was looking through a Desert Book magazine when I came across a LDS romance book that really caught my attention. I bought it, read it, and LOVED it. Ever since then I was hooked on romances. I had known for a long time that I had a sweet spot for a good love story, but I didn't realize that there was a whole category of books that were romances...and that there was a whole collection of clean, uplifting romances at stores like Desert Book. What followed was a very long wave of my passion for reading and especially romances, that has never really subsided. My sophomore year of High School is the year that I read all the time. Seriously, all the time. That year was a really hard year for me with friends, boys, etc and so I think reading definitely became my escape. I read for entertainment, I read to, in a way, 'meet people' through the characters, and experience new places. I learned so much about people and life from reading so much, but I also know looking back that I was living life on the sidelines. I was reading about life and learning a lot from that, but I was not getting first hand experience.


Wes and I shared a love of reading and most days I could be found to be reading in various spots like this one.

Later in High School as I regained a lot of the confidence I had lost through a difficult year, I spent a lot more time with friends and doing other things. Reading was not consuming my life quite as much and while it was definitely still ever present in my life, it was not as much for an escape and I was not as reliant on it. As I took an AP Psychology class and was really starting to discover my interest in people and relationships and discovering that it was what I wanted to do with my future, I began to realize other reasons of why I loved reading so much. At the end of my senior year I wrote an essay for a local library scholarship in which I was supposed to write about a book that had influenced my life. I wrote about one of Richard Paul Evans'(who is one of my favorite authors whom I will talking about again later) books and some of the quotes from it that have really influenced me. When I was talking about the quote that is written at the top right corner of my blog and that inspired this blog's name, I said the following:

I have a sincere and genuine interest in the lives and feelings of other people. It fascinates me that each person has their own individual and unique story that is unlike any other. My love of coming to understand the lives of others, with their joys and struggles, is one of the main reasons that I love to read novels. I like to be able to understand how people in a particular situation feel. Novels that give insight into the problems and struggles of various people give me a type of knowledge that I cherish. I use that knowledge to attempt to not judge people by how they appear, but rather see them for who they are beneath their outside appearance. When I understand how others feel and how they view things, I am able to treat them with more respect and develop compassion for them. I try to remember this quote when I am tempted to judge people without really knowing them.


This sums up the reasons I had for my love of reading then and it is definitely still true. When I finished High School I was still reading a lot, but when I went to my first year of college it took a break for a little while. I was experiencing so many new things and enjoying everything around me, and I was afraid that if I got hooked in a book I would get distracted from schoolwork. I remember talking to my dad on the phone one day and he said something about how I wasn't reading very much anymore and that it seemed like I was busy living life now instead of reading about it. I had never told him about what I said above about sophomore year and how it was my escape, but I guess he figured it out on his own. It was not until toward the end of winter semester when I had a lot lighter school load than I thought it would and found a lot of extra time that I started to read a lot again. I was trying to expand the type of books I was reading during that time too and discovered some great books that I wouldn't have otherwise. It was also when I discovered the first two books of the Hunger Games trilogy which I loved and I will talk more about later in this post as well. Then this summer I was able to read a lot too. Not quite as much as I had originally planned on since I was busy having a life as well, but I read during my lunch breaks and at other times and really loved it. I feel like I have reached a pretty good balance of living my life while also reading about life, and I have also figured out how to balance it in my college life. This semester I will definitely still be reading and actually I have already read three books(granted one of them was the last book in the Hunger Games trilogy and so I read in a little over a day). I have found that it is a really good way to fill my half hour bus ride to school and again home from school, and it is also a good break and relaxer when I need to take a break from schoolwork. So as long as I don't get carried away, I think it actually helps me rather than hurting me.

My family has a lot of pictures like this from our various travels...

This blog post originally was just going to be about my favorite books with just a short background at the beginning. But as you can see from above, it didn't end up being so short. Opps. So my favorite books.... First of all let me say that I have read SO MANY books and of those there have been SO MANY that I love, but these are just some of my favorites that always stand out in my mind and hold a special place in my heart.

*Harry Potter- I know there are so many people that agree with me and that this one doesn't need a lot of explaining. I have reread this series many many times, but I got to reread most of them this summer for the first time doing since the last book has been out. Going back to the first book when I already knew the end and the whole story was a really cool experience. I am blown away by how J.K. Rowling had the whole story in her mind and how well she was able to connect and tie everything. Things that were introduced in the first books that seem minor come back in to be important in ways you would never imagine. I also think it is amazing that she successfully created this unique, detailed world that seems like it could be so real.

*The Hunger Games Trilogy- Wow. That's all I can say. I have been talking about this trilogy a lot recently. And that's because it is so amazing!! Seriously, I loved these books. The premise of the story is unique; the characters are so great and so REAL; the distopia she creates is chilling and makes you really think about the world around you and your place in it, as it should; and she captures human nature and human conflict so beautifully. Also, I have to say the love story is great too :).


*The Work and the Glory series- I read this series in High School during the time that I was reading a ton and I loved them!! I love the author Gerald Lund and have read almost all of his other books as well. I loved this series for many different reasons. They gave me a much greater appreciation for the events in LDS church history as well as a much more personal perspective. I have always heard about the events that happened, but when the characters in the story--characters that you have come to know and love like friends--are facing those events it becomes so much more personal. Another reason I loved these books is because Lund is so talented in understanding and capturing people and their relationships and emotions. Seeing the Steed family through time and trials and growing as others joined their family was quite an experience.


*All Richard Paul Evans books: I could easily write a whole blog post about him and all his books, and I think I will sometime. There is SO much to say. But for now I will just say that I love his books and all of the insights into life and relationships that they offer. I have read almost all of his books(there are a lot of them, but the only ones that I haven't read are his very first ones which I intend on going back to read in the near future). I always know that I will like his books, because they are always a story about love. Not necessarily a romance, although many of them are, but about all kinds of love. And his books are always full of so many great quotes. Usually, he begins each chapter with a short journal entry from the main character and they are always so insightful. His stories often compel me to want to make a difference as well. And actually he gives you that opportunity. One of his novels was based around an actual orphanage in Peru and he has donations and projects set up to help and contribute to the orphanage. And there are many other similar things he does. So much of the money from his books goes to helping those he write about and I think it is amazing that he is making a difference both through his words and his money.

*All of Josi Kilpack's books- The part of my essay that I put in here that talks about one reason I love reading definitely applies to why I love Josi Kilpack's books. When it comes to LDS fiction, she is who I love. She writes it like no one else does because she takes real life problems that plague the world today and then thinks about how that problem would be in the life of a member of the LDS faith and writes from that perspective. She had written about prescription drug addiction, infertility, divorce, internet predators, identity theft, abuse, and so much more. I realize that probably sounds like a lot of depressing books, but they are not. She writes about them in a way that helps you to understand the problem, sympathize with and better understand those that face it, and presents a hopeful and realistic solution for the character through the gospel. I love and own all of her books(except for one that I hope to get soon). And currently she has been writing a culinary mystery series that is a lot of fun. As seen in the picture, I got to meet her last April and it was so great!

*Ella Enchanted:
This one probably seems a little out of place with the rest of them seeing as it is an easy read from elementary school, but I love this book! I love the main character Ella and I think it is such a great story and sweet love story. I have reread it several times and love it every time that I read it :).






*The Last Song: I have not decided for sure if this one goes on my top favorites list yet, but since finishing this book today is what inspired me to write this blog, I definitely felt like it deserved a spot :). I saw the movie that was based off of this book on Labor Day when I was at Brianne's apartment and really liked it. Brianne and her roommates had all read the book and kept telling me how great it was. So after the movie Brianne told me that I should definitely read the book because it was the kind of book I would like, and I borrowed it from her roommate. I finished it today and she was so right, I loved it! It has a really cute love story which is enough for someone to recommend it to me, but it was more than just the love story. There are so many great stories throughout the whole thing and so many different relationships with interesting dynamics. It is a love story(and a good one!) but it is also a story of family, friends, change, forgiveness, maturity, parenthood, faith, mistakes, truth, life, pain, happiness, God, and so much more. Although there is a main character, there are four different characters from who's point of view the story alternates and I love that aspect as well.

Like I said these are just a few of the many, many books that I love and I am pretty sure that there are many more amazing books to come!

Sunday, August 22, 2010

What a summer...

Ok prepare yourself! Because I was neglectful of my blog during the summer due to being so busy, I have a lot to make up for and this is pretty long...

Wow, where to start?! This summer was not at all what I expected in so many ways. This was what I pictured: a pretty laid back summer of hanging out with the family and a few of my friends here with lots of down town when I wasn't working. I was considering picking up extra work through people I knew to fill the time. And I was thinking of all the books I could read or movies to see since I'd have lots of extra time. Now here is what the summer was really like...

*I actually had a busy social life! I didn't expect this one at all. I was not really planning on being super involved in the Young Single Adult activities in my stake, but I went on a temple trip to ABQ at the beginning of the summer and ended up having so much fun! I realized that a lot of my girl friends from high school were still here and still so much fun to hang out with. And then there were several guys who were here working for the summer that were a lot of fun to get to know too. So after that I decided to go to some of the activities now, and then ended up going to almost all of them! It was so great to reconnect with old friends, really get to know people that I had sort of known before, and to meet new people. I really had a lot of friendships strengthened or formed this summer and it was very exciting!

Brianne and I at one of the YSA temple trips

Cami's Harry Potter birthday party!

Some of my girl friends and I started our own little book club to discuss some books. It started because some of them hadn't read The Hunger Games yet(*gasp*) and so we wanted them to read it and then discuss!

YSA pool party in Santa Fe! We had the place all to ourselves!

YSA overnight conference in southern New Mexico

Hanging out with friends from High School!

And there were a whole lot more fun things too!

*New found confidence: This kind of goes along with what I was talking about above. Its not that I was unconfident, because I wasn't, but I guess I'll say I had some insecurities. Looking back on my year at school I would say I did a good job of breaking out of my shy tendencies from High School for those I don't know that well. I was really happy that I had been so successful and had been able to make lots of friends, but I also realized that I could have done much better. I did tend to still stick with my roommates or group of friends and I could have reached out to more people, let my personality show more, and not stuck to the background in groups so much. This summer I was able to take a huge leap forward in that. I was around a lot of my church friends from high school which was a context in which I was always comfortable and myself, but then I was able to meet new people in that context and still be myself with all my quirks and craziness. I discovered the obvious: when you are yourself, people who would want to be your friend are naturally attracted to you. Like I said before, I made several new friendships and strengthened and developed old ones. I was able to reach out to those that were not as social as well and to just get to know and get along with everyone in the YSA. I would go to activities without knowing who all was there and without needing any 'comfort friends.' And when I was at activities, I was in the middle of it. Not the center of attention, cause that's not what I want, but still very involved. I definitely want to take who I have been this summer and bring it with me to college because I feel like I will have more friends, more fun, and be able to help others more. I definitely reached a new level of confidence in myself and where I stand with others as well. In past experiences I have felt that in most of my relationships with people I would usually care about the person and friendship more than the other person did. It may have just been insecurities, but I think it was more than that. Well for the first time I can really say that it is not true anymore. I have had many friendships really develop this summer, both with people still in Provo and people here. I think one of the best feelings in the world is knowing that there are people who care about you, and I am overwhelmed with gratitude for the great friends that I have been blessed with!

*Soccer every week!: A definite highlight of my weeks this summer were Thursday nights when a group of us would get to together to play soccer at the park. It varied every week in skill levels and number of people there, but we usually we had a pretty big group and had competitive games even if all the people there were not intense soccer players. I love soccer!! Seriously the more I play it the more I love it! It was awesome to be able to do something to stay in shape and to have fun and get to know people.



*Best. Weekend. Ever. At the end of July my previous roommate and close friend Kylie came to visit. It was something we had talked about doing for a long time, but we were not sure it would be possible because her car couldn't make the drive. But she ended up being able to come with a new friend of hers that had been roommates with Desta (a girl from my town) and also wanted to visit. Kylie was here for 3 days and 4 nights. I was also able to have two sisters from my ward in Provo that I was friends with visit at the same time. We had talked about having them stop by to see me on their way home from their trip around the country and so they planned to come the same weekend as Kylie(they had been her roommates this summer), but to leave it as a surprise for her. And surprised she was! Every seriously worked out perfectly during this weekend and I would not have changed a thing. And it was definitely the highlight of my summer!

So she got in Thursday night and I met her at Desta's house where we all caught up and then got to have a real New Mexican meal from Desta's mom. Then we went to my house where we talked to Jeff for a while, and then to Brad and Jet's house where we were going to be staying and talked to them for a long time, and then the two of us got ready for bed and talked again! Sensing a pattern? :) It was so great to finally be able to talk in person again!

Friday I showed her all around the town including the science museum(which was at the top of her list of things to do!) and then we met up with Desta, Staci, and Stephanie K(Desta's two roommates that came) and we all bought awesome t-shirts and then headed to Santa Fe, stopping along the way at Camel Rock. Then that evening we went to a party at Desta's house.

The Science Museum! Complete with the video "The Town that Never Was" about the secret history of our town.
Most popularly sold t-shirt in Los Alamos!

Camel Rock!

Shopping around the plaza in Santa Fe... so many different neat homemade things!

Yummy meal containing lots of New Mexican foods and sopapillas!

Saturday morning me, Kylie, Staci, and Stephanie K went to Bandelier National Monument and hiked around and saw some Indian runes and caves. Kylie and I hung out at Brad and Jet's for a while in the afternoon and then Heather and Stephanie G got there and surprised Kylie! We went to a stake activity at my church for a bit and then went back and talked for a long time and caught up on everything. It was so much fun and I love all three of those girls!



Outside of a kiva, an underground room used for prayer and meditation.

Surprise!

Sunday we all went to church in my ward and I got to introduce them all :). Then we went by Overlook park and then spent the rest of the day at my parents house because they had just gotten back in town. It was so fun to relax and talk and have fun. A perfect Sunday afternoon. In the evening Jeff gave us a detailed tour of Los Alamos complete with commentary, facts, stories, and exclusive access to the national laboratory.


Before our adventure in the backyard in which Kylie picked and tried her first raspberry... and liked it! We also picked and snapped green beans, and picked cucumbers.

Monday morning all three of them left and I went back to work, wishing it could have lasted longer!


*Grew in appreciation of both Los Alamos and New Mexico: This goes along with the things above as well, because what better way to appreciate what you've got then when you are sharing it with someone else? And when I was trying to help Kylie experience Los Alamos and New Mexico I actually got to do somethings that I have never done or have not done in a long time. One of the main ones was shopping around the plaza in Santa Fe! I had actually never done that before(when I've got all brothers there aren't a lot of opportunities :) ) and I loved it! Stopping at the Camel Rock and going to Bandelier were both things I have not done since I was a kid. I already knew I liked Los Alamos, but I realized this summer how much interesting history we really have!! Going to the museum again and hearing Jeff's tour was pretty cool. But I can't say that I was a huge fan of New Mexico. There are still a lot of things about it that I don't really like, but there is also a lot of culture, a unique kind of beauty, and actually a lot of things to do!(Only if you like outdoor stuff though, which I realized I really do).

Ok really New Mexico can be quite pretty.

The hand crafted turquoise rings that Kylie and I got in Santa Fe. New Mexico is known for its turquoise and it happens to be Kylie's birthstone too! Now I will always have a piece of New Mexico with me, and I'm ok with that :)

Another way that I have been able to grow in appreciation of New Mexico is through work(at a YMCA child care summer camp)

The lavender farm that we toured and got free products from!


Abiquiu Lake: we took the kids here to look out at it, and I also got to go cliff jumping here with the YSAs!

Jemez Falls: There is big waterfall and then on the river above it there are several spots like this that people can get in and play and swim around.

Once a week there is a farmer's market in Los Alamos. We took the kids one week and I hadn't been there in a long time, if ever. I loved it! I love places like this and in the Santa Fe plaza where the people who made or grew the products are right there selling them to you. Since I liked it so much with the kids, I went back again with Mom a couple days ago. There is lot of variety and between the two of us we got a fresh scone, potatoes, peaches, a couple different breads, lavender products, and flavored honey sticks.

*An awesome trip to New York City! Another highlight of my summer... I got to go on a trip to New York City with my parents and Jeff and Wes to see where Jeff served his mission. It was so neat to be in a city that has so much of America's culture. I saw so many things that are always referred to or in stories. I saw so many different cultures, languages, and types of people. We got to meet people from Jeff's mission as well. Each day was packed full of adventures, sites, and neat experiences.

Here are just a couple of the many many things we did...

So neat to be right by the statue that was such a symbol of hope to so many!

I loved the skyline!

On top of the Rockefeller Center

Wax Museum!

*Hyrum will one year old in less than a month! When did that happen? It's been so fun hanging out with him this summer and seeing him grow! And on Thursday he took his first steps!! I was really hoping I would get to see it before I headed back to college and I got to see it just in time!



*AND... Thanks to work and having to wear tennis shoes everyday, I got the best tan line I've ever had: No words needed...

Monday, July 19, 2010

Let me tell you about a girl...

**disclaimer: I totally starting writing this before Kylie did her blog post, although hers was posted first :)


Meet Kylie. Yes I know she's awesome.

I met Kylie over a year ago when we were randomly put together as roommates. What followed was an exciting summer full of adventures and bonding...


Then Fall and winter came and there was a switch in some of the roommates but the adventures continued...




Kylie is basically amazing and can make me laugh SO much but can also really touch and inspire me with her insights and opinions. There is no one else like her and I am SO excited that she is going to be coming to visit me in two days! Yeah!!

Sunday, May 9, 2010

Parenting

Parenting is something that has been on my mind a lot recently. I have been living with my brother and sister-in-law for the last two weeks and have had a lot of time to interact with my 8 month old nephew. That exposure in addition to interesting talks with Jet, listening to conversations from other young mothers, and my years of working at a daycare has taught me one big thing about parenting: EVERYTHING that a parent does when raising a child has some sort of effect. It is kind of a scary idea that developing children are so impressionable and that if a parent makes a mistake in raising the child, it can have effects for years down the road. I have heard stories of how a thing as little as always holding the bottle for the baby can keep the child from ever learning how to do it on their own and always be reliant on their parent for it. Every decision and the finding of a balance in such things as helping too much or not helping enough has direct results. Such questions are encountered as: How long do you let the baby cry? How can you teach a child a lesson without being too harsh? It this something he/she should learn to do on their own or is it something I should be doing for them? When is the right age for everything? With so many tough decisions to make and such a great amount of responsibility and power, it is a miracle that anyone ever chose to be a parent. Any person who exercises all their effort to be the best parent that they can be deserves to be commended. So although as I have gotten older I have seen things that my parents may have not done quite right when raising me, or things that I will plan on doing differently when I am a parent; I can also see all that they have done right. I have seen so many ways in which their good decisions or sacrifices have made a difference. So here's to my mom:

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!!! I love you and I thank you for all that you have done for me to make me who I am today. Thank you for ever taking on the challenge of raising me(and I know that it was a challenge!).


And thank you to all the parents everywhere for all the hard decisions and experimenting that you have done to try to raise the best kids that they can. Although you may not always be able to see or feel it, you are all appreciated and loved for what you have done. Keep up the good work!